I have found some definite pros and cons to summer, but overall, we are having a blast around here. However, I'll start with my complaints first, ahem:
1. The "fun" expectation. This is wearing. Yes, summer is supposed to be a lot of fun, but there is still reading/"school" at home to be done, groceries and errands to run, and a home to clean. The first few days have been a bit rough as this realization has hit home for Peter.
2. My mind must be stretched. I have to think, have I read to everyone? Spent quality time with everyone? Cleaned what I needed? Connected with the people I want? Time is more of the essence, and, as Mr. Gilbreth in Cheaper by the Dozen would agree, there must be less wasted motions, and more efficiency to my days.
Okay, enough with the cons. Now for the Pros, which are a lot more fun to revel in:
1. It's all family time. I have a three month break from driving homework I think is stupid down Peter's throat, racing the clock to get to school on time, scheduling Kimball's nap to coincide with when to pick Peter up, finding babysitters for Elsie and Kimball so I can volunteer at the school, drilling spelling words I know will never set in, figuring out how to pack a sandwich free cold lunch, etc, etc, etc. I can do what I want, and when I want to, and nobody has to know or care. It's liberating!!!!
2. We are having fun. I ask the kids, "What do you want to do next week?" They tell me, I plan it, and we do it! Last week we played in the water in the backyard all afternoon, explored an "Antiquarian Bookstore" and picked out used books for the kids, played at Grandma and Grandpas, took 3.5 hours exploring every inch of a 2 mile trail along a river, went garage sale shopping, played at the park, played tennis, had friends over, and picked warm strawberries out of our patch. Life sure is an adventure, and it's fun watching my kids explore the wonders of it!
3. Peter and Elsie and Kimball all get to learn to play together. It's no longer "Elsie and Kimball" while Peter is at school, or doing homework. They are a team, and all three of them are in things together now. It's so good for Peter to be a part of things, and for the younger ones to learn to include him better.
3. A new library card! We live in a small town, with a tiny library. I have been at my wits end, reading the SAME books over and over to my children. However, my mother-in-law lent me her library card to the "big" library in the town a couple miles away. It has opened new doors for me and my children. It will be a saving grace in the months to come with a new baby. What a great summer perk!
So, summer is going to be fun, and exhausting. However, I love my kids and am grateful for the time we all have together!
Monday, June 11, 2012
Monday, June 4, 2012
May Highlights
May was full of small, eventful highlights. Fun moments, and lots of work when the fun was not being had. Our home is getting ready for a baby at the end of June, so Mike and I are bombarded with each others "honey-dos" before the baby arrives. However, here are some of the more fun things that happened....
Mike scrounged up an old playhouse someone wanted to get rid of. Once we clean it up and secure everything, the kids will have a blast in it! It was very heavy though. Our neighborhood is awesome - within minutes of coming home with this huge hunk of wood, we had about 10 men help carrying it to our backyard, as you can see for yourself. It quickly got its name as the "Princess Castle", and has stuck ever since. Thanks everyone, for all the time and muscle it took to get this huge thing here!
Mike and Peter also went on a fishing trip with one of our neighbors and his grandson. They had a blast. Peter came home talking a mile a minute about his fish and what they did. With the help of Mike and our great neighbor, Peter claimed he caught 3 fish! That's pretty exciting.
The same weekend, my sister Michelle came up to visit. Michelle, Elsie, Kimball and I had a terrific evening as well. We ate popcorn, chocolate, and watched Cinderella. When Peter came home from fishing, it was straight to his 2nd to last soccer game. By the end of the day, Peter was pretty wiped out!
Michelle came to get away from the pressures of school, but I'm afraid I just added to her stress during her stay. I realized while she was here that I had a bigger project ahead of me than I realized, as I was supposed to come up with a mother's day gift for the primary children that Sunday. Sweet Michelle stayed up way too late (or should I say early) helping me cut out little flowers for a card craft for each child in our ward to give their mother. But oh, I'm not sure what I would have done without her! She was definitely a life saver that weekend. She bailed me out with the craft, subbed playing the piano in primary, helped get my kids ready for church in the morning when 1 of the 3 children was having a melt down, and was my stabilizer all Sunday. Thanks Michelle! (I still feel awful about your tires though!)
Peter also finished up another season of soccer. We were all so excited at the last game. All season long he had wanted to score a goal, as is the dream of every kid that plays soccer. It was an awesome play. Peter was playing defender and happened to dribble the ball all the way down the field, maneuvering around other kids and everything. Then came the goal kick. It was a bit slow, and right towards the goalie. However, the stars were aligned, and by some stroke of luck, the goalie forgot to stop the ball in front of the goal line. Hence, Peter scored a point for the team. YEAAAA!
Here is another random picture that was taken a couple weeks ago. Elsie and Peter were playing outside for about 10 minuets by themselves. When Mike stepped out to check on them, he saw the picture to the right. Peter was so proud, and Elsie seemed to think she was a princess in a parade. However, it was disconcerting as a parent. Instances like these I'm so grateful my children are alive and functioning.
Last but not least, there was the solar eclipse we watched from our backyard. It was a blast playing with our shadows and watching the moon pass over the sun as it did. The lighting was so weird. Our neighbor brought over his welding helmet and we all took a short peak at the sun as it was being covered over. It was great. What made it even greater was all the family that happened to stop by during the event, so we were able to share it. I had a niece that was starving the whole time, and I felt bad for keeping her, but she was even a good sport! The pictures are of the girls playing with their shadows. It was fun because there was lighting coming from 2 different directions, making warped shadows. Meanwhile, the kids entertained themselves with grandpa (or rather ON grandpa). So, that was our May. Now wish up luck for the month of June, we'll need it!
The same weekend, my sister Michelle came up to visit. Michelle, Elsie, Kimball and I had a terrific evening as well. We ate popcorn, chocolate, and watched Cinderella. When Peter came home from fishing, it was straight to his 2nd to last soccer game. By the end of the day, Peter was pretty wiped out!
Michelle came to get away from the pressures of school, but I'm afraid I just added to her stress during her stay. I realized while she was here that I had a bigger project ahead of me than I realized, as I was supposed to come up with a mother's day gift for the primary children that Sunday. Sweet Michelle stayed up way too late (or should I say early) helping me cut out little flowers for a card craft for each child in our ward to give their mother. But oh, I'm not sure what I would have done without her! She was definitely a life saver that weekend. She bailed me out with the craft, subbed playing the piano in primary, helped get my kids ready for church in the morning when 1 of the 3 children was having a melt down, and was my stabilizer all Sunday. Thanks Michelle! (I still feel awful about your tires though!)
Peter also finished up another season of soccer. We were all so excited at the last game. All season long he had wanted to score a goal, as is the dream of every kid that plays soccer. It was an awesome play. Peter was playing defender and happened to dribble the ball all the way down the field, maneuvering around other kids and everything. Then came the goal kick. It was a bit slow, and right towards the goalie. However, the stars were aligned, and by some stroke of luck, the goalie forgot to stop the ball in front of the goal line. Hence, Peter scored a point for the team. YEAAAA!
Here is another random picture that was taken a couple weeks ago. Elsie and Peter were playing outside for about 10 minuets by themselves. When Mike stepped out to check on them, he saw the picture to the right. Peter was so proud, and Elsie seemed to think she was a princess in a parade. However, it was disconcerting as a parent. Instances like these I'm so grateful my children are alive and functioning.
Last but not least, there was the solar eclipse we watched from our backyard. It was a blast playing with our shadows and watching the moon pass over the sun as it did. The lighting was so weird. Our neighbor brought over his welding helmet and we all took a short peak at the sun as it was being covered over. It was great. What made it even greater was all the family that happened to stop by during the event, so we were able to share it. I had a niece that was starving the whole time, and I felt bad for keeping her, but she was even a good sport! The pictures are of the girls playing with their shadows. It was fun because there was lighting coming from 2 different directions, making warped shadows. Meanwhile, the kids entertained themselves with grandpa (or rather ON grandpa). So, that was our May. Now wish up luck for the month of June, we'll need it! 
Friday, June 1, 2012
Mother or Commander? Ender Wiggin and I
From the time I was little, I have had a vivid imagination. Although my childhood imagination has morphed as I've grown-up, it still manifests itself strongly when I read a fictional book. I get caught-up into the stories I read and take on the subject's emotions and themes extensively. When I read a sad book, I cry for days, if a character is hurt, I loose sleep over worry, or if the main character overcomes, I feel conqueror over my life as well. Hence, reading fiction is somewhat exhausting for me and usually I just stick with non-fiction genres. However, lately I have been reading Ender's Game and I feel so inclined to share my thoughts on the parallels I am drawing from Ender's character.
As a mother, there are ways in which I feel very connected to Ender as a commander in his war games at school. First, some background: Ender is a 9-year-old boy who becomes commander over a group of 50 in some serious school games. The teachers at his school are continually bombarding him with rule changes, promotions, and other children he must get along with. In response, Ender rises to the occasion. Although he rises, he is often overwhlemed, excited, or even depressed with his circumstances. He finds himself continually changing his strategies, trying to stay ahead of his opponents and the game. To him, loosing is not an option. This is where my feelings as a mother begin to parallel this prodigy of a character.
As a mother, my game is constantly changing. There are no consistant rules and regulations, handbooks or texts to follow. Just as Ender studied other commanders around him and battles of the past from those with experience, I observe keenly the tactics and ideas of mothers around me and those who have gone before. I also pray to receive personal guidance on decisions. No matter what, though, no situation lasts for too long, and regulations change. Children grow-up, new problems arise, more children are born, jobs change, the economy changes, friends and mentors move and change. Ender and I are continually pushed into new and harder challenges we are unsure how to overcome. Change sometimes seems the only constant.
However, overcome we must, because loosing is not an option. No matter what, I must stay connected with my children, never letting my role as "mother" slip. I must teach them tirelessly, just as Ender with his army, how to overcome their opponents in life. Just as Ender, this requires hard work, long days, extra practice, and more studying. At times, it feels lonely and even depressing. No one has walked this exact path of mothering these children of mine, and it takes much prayer, thought, and meditation. As things turn, and battles are overcome and conquered, there are times motherhood can be very exhilarating and exciting. I find myself thinking, just as Ender, "I love this game!"
Yes, motherhood involves finding new tactics and strategies in an ever-changing world in an ever-changing household. It is always work, but for one reason and another, I love this role. I love the pay-offs, and I love my children. I "win" whenever my children run up and give me hugs, when they make good choices, when they are kind to others, show responsibility, serve others, and develop their talents. Watching them grow is the wonder of all wonders, and I am glad to be "commander", alongside my husband, and given the opportunity to help guide them in this game called life.
As a mother, there are ways in which I feel very connected to Ender as a commander in his war games at school. First, some background: Ender is a 9-year-old boy who becomes commander over a group of 50 in some serious school games. The teachers at his school are continually bombarding him with rule changes, promotions, and other children he must get along with. In response, Ender rises to the occasion. Although he rises, he is often overwhlemed, excited, or even depressed with his circumstances. He finds himself continually changing his strategies, trying to stay ahead of his opponents and the game. To him, loosing is not an option. This is where my feelings as a mother begin to parallel this prodigy of a character.
As a mother, my game is constantly changing. There are no consistant rules and regulations, handbooks or texts to follow. Just as Ender studied other commanders around him and battles of the past from those with experience, I observe keenly the tactics and ideas of mothers around me and those who have gone before. I also pray to receive personal guidance on decisions. No matter what, though, no situation lasts for too long, and regulations change. Children grow-up, new problems arise, more children are born, jobs change, the economy changes, friends and mentors move and change. Ender and I are continually pushed into new and harder challenges we are unsure how to overcome. Change sometimes seems the only constant.
However, overcome we must, because loosing is not an option. No matter what, I must stay connected with my children, never letting my role as "mother" slip. I must teach them tirelessly, just as Ender with his army, how to overcome their opponents in life. Just as Ender, this requires hard work, long days, extra practice, and more studying. At times, it feels lonely and even depressing. No one has walked this exact path of mothering these children of mine, and it takes much prayer, thought, and meditation. As things turn, and battles are overcome and conquered, there are times motherhood can be very exhilarating and exciting. I find myself thinking, just as Ender, "I love this game!"
Yes, motherhood involves finding new tactics and strategies in an ever-changing world in an ever-changing household. It is always work, but for one reason and another, I love this role. I love the pay-offs, and I love my children. I "win" whenever my children run up and give me hugs, when they make good choices, when they are kind to others, show responsibility, serve others, and develop their talents. Watching them grow is the wonder of all wonders, and I am glad to be "commander", alongside my husband, and given the opportunity to help guide them in this game called life.
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